It's date night, your turn to plan. What's on the agenda?
Food. If it’s nice outside and the mosquitoes aren’t active, it’d be nice to have an outdoor meal at a restaurant. I suppose depending on the season/local events, we could walk around the city, do a car picnic at the drive-in theater, go to the local game station thing with bowling, bumper cars, go-karts, etc. Anything that my girl wants to do… within reason.
What makes for good porn? Does size matter? Should there be real orgasms?
Plot… I mean, is there a reason that these people are suddenly going at it? YES, size does matter. Tiny “things” of any nature don’t light me up. Yes, there should be real orgasms… the halfhearted uh’s in the tiniest voices just kinda piss me off. I’d like to be turned on by my porn, not supremely annoyed.
“i want to believe the things that i tell everyone about myself. i want to actually believe that i am going to be successful, that i deserve anything in this world, that i am beautiful or smart or funny or anything. i want to believe that i can be happy without the help of some ridiculous pill, that it’s all in my control, i just have to be better in one way or another, stop being so obsessive, or overanalytical, or anti-social, or whatever it is. and then, also, i’m absolutely petrified of being “fixed,” so to speak, because, in many ways, depression is my closest friend, closer to me than anyone else has ever gotten, will ever get. it’s the only real friend i have ever had.”—via one long longing [someone mentioned this to me tonight, b/c i linked to it from the glee recap. sometimes it’s good to read these things and feel like i’ve made some progress on something] (via autostraddle)
Is there a specific question that you've wanted someone to ask, so that you could finally give a many-a-time rehearsed answer?
I guess my answer is akin to yours. I feel like you can get a good feel for a person after you answer the “are you gay?” question. That and it’s a bit of a relief, in that you feel you can move on to a different subject.
On a somewhat serious note today because of a conversation the other day:
I am sure every girl can recall, at least once as a child, coming home and telling their parents, uncle, aunt or grandparent about a boy who had pulled her hair, hit her, teased her, pushed her or committed some other playground crime. I will bet money that most of those, if not all, will tell you that they were told “Oh, that just means he likes you”. I never really thought much about it before having a daughter of my own. I find it appalling that this line of bullshit is still being fed to young children. Look, if you want to tell your child that being verbally and/or physically abused is an acceptable sign of affection, i urge you to rethink your parenting strategy. If you try and feed MY daughter that crap, you better bring protective gear because I am going to shower you with the brand of “affection” you are endorsing.
When the fuck was it decided that we should start teaching our daughters to accept being belittled, disrespected and abused as endearing treatment? And we have the audacity to wonder why women stay in abusive relationships? How did society become so oblivious to the fact that we were conditioning our daughters to endure abusive treatment, much less view it as romantic overtures? Is this where the phrase “hitting on girls” comes from? Well, here is a tip: Save the “it’s so cute when he gets hateful/physical with her because it means he loves her” asshattery for your own kids, not mine. While you’re at it, keep them away from my kids until you decide to teach them respect and boundaries.
My daughter is `10 years old and has come home on more than one occasion recounting an incident at school in which she was teased or harassed by a male classmate. There has been several times when someone that she was retelling the story to responded with the old, “that just means he likes you” line. Wrong. I want my daughter to know that being disrespected is NEVER acceptable. I want my daughter to know that if someone likes her and respects her, much less LOVES her, they don’t hurt her and they don’t put her down. I want my daughter to know that the boy called her ugly or pushed her or pulled her hair didn’t do it because he admires her, it is because he is a little asshole and assholes are an occurrence of society that will have to be dealt with for the rest of her life. I want my daughter to know how to deal with assholes she will encounter throughout her life. For now, I want my daughter to know that if someone is verbally harassing her, she should tell the teacher and if the teacher does nothing, she should tell me. If someone physically touches her, tell the teacher then, if it continues, to yell, “STOP TOUCHING/PUNCHING/PUSHING ME” in the middle of class or the hallway, then tell me. Last year, one little boy stole her silly bandz from her. He just grabbed her and yanked a handful of them off of her wrist. When I went to the school to address the incident, the teacher smiled and explained it away to her, in front of me, “he probably has a crush on you”. Okay, the boy walked up to my daughter, grabbed and held her by the arm and forcibly removed her bracelets from her as she struggled and you want to convince her that she should be flattered? Fuck off. I am going to punch you in the face but I hope you realize it is just my way of thanking you for the great advice you gave my daughter. If these same advice givers’ sons came home crying because another male classmate was pushing them, pulling their hair, hitting them or calling them names, I would bet dollars to donuts they would tell him to defend themselves and kick the kid’s ass, if necessary. They sure as shit wouldn’t say, “he probably just wants a play date”.
I will teach my daughter to accept nothing less than respect. Anyone who hurts her physically or emotionally doesn’t deserve her respect, friendship or love. I will teach my boys the same thing as well as the fact that hitting on girls doesn’t involve hitting girls. I can’t teach my daughter to respect herself if I am teaching her that no one else has to respect her. I can’t raise sons that respect women, if I teach them that bullying is a valid expression of affection.
The next time that someone offers up that little “secret” to my daughter, I am going to slap the person across the face and yell, “I LOVE YOU”.
9) What chocolate is your favorite? I prefer milk chocolate.
14) What do you want to be in the future? I want to be a partner… in an accounting firm and in a relationship (I think).
77) What kind of person are you? I suppose that I’m at least nice-ish (it’s hard to be objective). I’ll let you change lanes or cut across a street when it’s jam packed with traffic and I’ve been in the same spot for the past 15 minutes. I put things back from where I borrowed them. When really angry/incensed, I’ll half-way cuss in front of kids. I sing along to my iPod whilst driving. I’ve rescued animals and nurtured them back to health. I vote liberal. I do my best to conserve water. I give to a charity that gifts people with farm animals and knowledge so that they can provide for themselves and other members of their community. I will take a friend/acquaintance’s call in the middle of the night and come to their aide. …That’s Me :-)
68) Are you good at holding back tears? I used to be decent at it, but now my amygdala and lacrimal gland have a connection I really can’t control.
89) Who’s the first person who comes to your mind when someone mentions “love”? Depending on the context of when/where/who/how they said it, either Paul McCartney or My Girl.
84) Have you been hurt so bad that you can’t find words to explain how you feel? I feel that way every time I go to the doctor for something other than a routine check up.
46) Describe your dream wedding: I can’t envision a wedding… sorry :-/
1) Who was the last person you texted? My Girl :-)